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JUNE 28: was my first trip to visit V in Madison, Wisconsin (State Capitol). I had a great time. The following is a summary of what the 2 of us did over those 10 days. Thanks to V for putting this down on paper -- He was writing some of his friends in an email message. My additions are in purple. By the way - my first name is Joel -- Here goes ...

Oh, I didn't update you all hum?!

OK, since I have 15 mins. to lab work, I guess I will try and run my typing speed. Forgive me for misspelled words.

Thursday: Joel got in, followed by a whirlwind of showers and dinner before hopping into bed - [It was late before I finally got to sleep -- ].

Friday: We biked into town so Joel can get a hair cut, then went to the student union. But, then he forgot to lock his car, so we had to head back out to the house (45 min biking) and so we stayed around the house, not doing much. Going shopping in the mall, and such. Just taking it easy. We went to a movie... I forget which. Then also headed down to the student union.

Saturday: We got up early and biked downtown to the farmers market to get some cinnamon rolls and fresh strawberries. Then at around noon we biked out to Warner park to volunteer to serve food at one of the food tents (the event was "Rhythm and Booms" which is fireworks for all at a 'pre July 4' date). Nothing much till around 5... then the mobs started swarming. Time passed quickly amidst a flurry of brats, hotdogs, hamburgers, and steak sandwiches. At 9 we quit and waited for the fireworks to start. We got to sit in the 'sponsors section' which was about 500 ft from where the fireworks shoot off. After a 20 person wait line for the porta-potty, the fireworks started. GREAT show, complete with ash in the eyes and all. We got home at around 11:30 or so. [One of the best fireworks displays I have ever seen -- over 12,000 aerial shots and nearly 200,000 people in the park -- big time for a Wyoming boy]

Sunday: There was a 'brunch' that we went to at one of my friend's house. Quickly, we took off at 1:30pm to head down to Chicago. Dropped the car off at my brother's then off to the Drake to check in and change. Rushed to Navy Pier just in time for a dinner boat cruise. The sunset was a beautiful scarlet to the dark skyline of the Chicago high-rises. Even though the weather was quite cool, we managed to head outside on to the deck to look at the sunset a few times. Too soon, the cruise was over and the 'last dance' song came on. It was 'From this moment on' (I think was the title). Seeing the yearning in Joel's eyes, I dragged him out to the dance floor and we danced... :) For the middle 1/3 of the song, I did open my eyes and saw this Latino couple staring at us and whispering, but it only made me smile. I think Joel saw another couple staring at us (and missing a beat too) at the start of the dance, but then I think he ignored them too. After the dance we tried to leave the boat, but Joel bumped into a tray full of glasses on the way out. I think I heard something shattered. So much for a graceful and dignified exit. :) Too bad though, they started playing the Titanic song as we were leaving. I guess their statement of 'last song' was a hoax. [I'm so thankful for the dance that night -- it was strange and I did not make a graceful exit (hehe), but something I will always remember. You are so BRAVE V. The cruise/dinner/dance were so romantic. And, the sunset topped it all off.]

Anyway, a mad dash to the Ferris wheel to give us both a few minutes in the freezing wind to calm down after the excitement. Then we walked back to John Handcock tower (right next to the Drake) for a 95th floor cocktail drink. Then we headed back to the hotel.

Monday: We walked along the "Magnificent Mile" down south. Took him to the Chicago River, Tribune Tower, Chicago Sun-Times, etc... Then off to Grant Park, where "Taste of Chicago" was going on (food was horrible). A brief detour to the Chicago Institute of Art (didn't go in, hoping to come back on Tuesday when it's free) then off to the Field Museum... Saw Sue (most complete T-Rex fossil) and Egyptian pyramid and gemstones and a quick rush through plants and shoes and such. Then off, passing Shed Aquarium, to the planetarium. Caught a trolley ride back up north and went back to the hotel for a brief rest. [Chicago is a beautiful city.]

We had dinner at an upscale Vietnamese restaurant [I just love that place] in the center of town (Le Colonial) and then walked up town to the gay neighborhoods. It was a bad idea. Not only was it a horribly long walk, but we also had to pass quite a few housing project buildings. I was honestly ready to die. [I did get a kick out of our long walk to that section of town -- V was so nervous -- to tell the truth, I was too, but with the two of us together, I felt GREAT.] When we got to the bars at 11, not much was going on. People were not out and about yet. One bartender even said that "You boys are too early, people don't show up till 2 am!" Oh well. At least we got to see one bar with a decent amount of eye candy and a bar with strip dancers. Joel was particularly attentive here.

We then headed off to a bathhouse to see what it's like. Ignoring the trashy details, we left there in quite a rush and not much in the way of 'excitement'. Granted I am speaking for myself. [See Below]

Tuesday: We got up, checked out and headed to the "old chinatown" for lunch. [Another GREAT meal] A bit of shopping, picked up the car, then we were off to Evanston. We stayed at Northwestern for the afternoon. I took him around the campus. Off by the lake, we sat on a rock boulder right by the river for a few hours. Looking at the blue sky, Chicago in the distance, wind surfers... and chatted a little. After that, we headed back to Madison. [Sitting on the waterfront was so romantic.]

Wednesday: We biked to town and Picnic Point. In the evening, we went to concert on the capitol square. Madison puts on the show every summer. Then we rushed home to go see [The Movie] "Cats and Dogs"... horrible horrible. [V forgot to mention that I met some of his friends there -- great folks - made me feel at home.]

Thursday: We just stayed in bed, I think. [Well, just about, but we won't go into details - hehe.] I was so tired! Actually, we did get out of bed for 2.5 hours to get lunch and do laundry. Then at night, we went to a play with Jay and Andy. The play was good. [Loved that Play -- was actually 2 plays and two of the greatest guys to have as friends - V is so lucky.]

Friday: We biked into town... went through the University Arboretum... Joel wanted to walk off road and I got 5 mosquito bites. [Had to see Olin Park - some history there.] Then we headed to get some ice cream... walked back to the park in the back of the store and sat for 45 minutes or so -- discussing what we want to do for our funerals. Very exciting topic. Then off to the free zoo to check out the bears. After that, we met up with Michelle, Dennis, and Yon for a huge BBQ ribs dinner. [Some of the friends I met at the concert on the capital square.]

Saturday: We biked into the farmers market again. But then at noon, we headed home for a nap. Off to the bookstore where Joel could read up some about gay sex and relationships. [Think V is trying to tell me something.] Then we went to dinner and got some italian ice scream. We also chatted a little about what maybe in the future...

Sunday: We got up and I made him some breakfast while he showered... then he left -- Without saying thank you! Well, maybe he did. :) [I think V was so tired when I left -- I was trying to hold back some tears and make the get-away quick and dirty. In fact, I made it back home in record time - 15 hours. That return trip convinced me that I can drive it for weekends and still function when I get there (hehe). You may all want to note that his friends in Madison did say he looked very tired -- think I messed up his sleeping schedule.]

That's it... I know I screwed up something. We went to get ice cream twice at lake Wingra, but I don't remember when the first time was... it was a full moon reflecting off the lake too!

Ok, I am CC'ing this to Joel, maybe he can fill you in with more details.

OK, OK, to keep you all from asking here are the trashy details:

The place, Steamworks [bathhouse], had a gym (no one was using), a huge hot tub, a large steam room, a sauna, a maze of corridors, and lots of little cubicles for rent. All in all, lots of guys running about... mainly wearing just a towel. Basically, it's just a meat blender. As long as he doesn't chase you away, anything goes. [Now the Steamworks was an interesting place - yes most of the guest were in towels, some were not..... It was an interesting experience. I will say a learning lesson in life.]

Hum... anything else I forgot to mention Joel? [Comments Above]

V.

Yes, this trip was great -- just putting this on the web makes me misty eyed. I cannot wait till our next adventure. It's not that far off -- :)


"Do not fear to step into the unknown for where there is risk, there is also reward."


AUGUST 9 TRIP: This was a mad dash across the States of Wyoming, South Dakota, Minnesota and Wisconsin for an extended weekend. It takes 15 hours to drive the 1000 miles to his house, but it's not really that hard when you know what awaits at the destination. I would like to have more time there, but my vacation days are limited. I would rather spend some every month than in a big block.

This time I arrived a little early (started out at 3:00am)-- around 7:00pm. V has just arrived home - it was a hot evening and we proceeded to shower - I was tired from the drive and he from working all day and biking across town. Needless to say we went directly from the shower to the bed - well his futon in the living room - it was cooler. I figure it was several hours before we actually fell asleep.

To some the rest of the weekend might have seemed boring, but not me. We walked around Madison (State Street), visited a few stores and the farmers market (held ever Saturday during the summer, ate lunch and dinner. I also re-acquainted myself with some of V's friends. On Saturday evening we went to a Play. I did enjoy it!

I took my mountain bike with me on this trip. It makes getting around town easier. Of course, we had to ride home in the dark after the Play.

We rented two movies, one for Saturday evening and one for Sunday.

Monday came all too soon and I took off for that long drive home about 8:30am, after a quick stop at the local bagel shop. V headed to work and I home in the opposite direction. The next time we would visit each other in Las Vegas - at his sisters wedding.

LAS VEGAS TRIP: It was mid September and I was on my way to Las Vegas. It was the first weekend the planes were flying after the World Trade Center collapse. I was suppose to leave at 6am - so up by 2 so I could drive to the airport in Billing, Montana and check-in 2 hours before the flight. Well, the plane never arrived and I was rebooked later that day.

V did not have much better luck -- he was to fly via Denver direct from Madison, but had to reroute to Chicago. We both arrived close to the same time, 6:30pm. I did not know where he was for several hours during the flight, but to my surprise, when I climbed out the plane, he was waiting for me at the gate - we had a big hug......

From the airport it was to Treasure Island Resort via a rental car his sister was driving - it was the first time I met any member of his family.

Instead of going through a day by day account of our trip I will give you a few highlights.

While waiting for dinner one evening I decided to play the slots. Almost lost my $10, but on the next to last quarter I won $250. Well, that money was put aside for a dinner for two the night before we left. I made reservations in the Eiffel Tower at, of course, a French restaurant. The food was good and looking out over the city lights of Las Vegas was so beautiful. I think we were there about 3 hours.

Now I have to say something about V's family -- they all love each other so much -- you can see it in their eyes and actions. I was invited in with open arms and felt right at home. I was even included in some of the family wedding pictures. I could not have asked for more. Now I can see what makes V so unique and why "I love him so much".

The 4 days went by so fast -- the wedding was on Monday afternoon. On Sunday, we visited some of the casinos/resorts and had some great meals at a Chinese restaurant -- Wednesday morning came too fast. We had to catch the plane around 6:00 - 6:30am. With the new airport security that means arriving at the airport by 4:00 in the morning -- the lines were long.

We both got home safely and we both talked that night on the phone. I sure love traveling, but being with someone you care for makes it even better.

Well, our next trip was not scheduled till mid October. The wait was long, but once the day arrived, I feel like a little school boy all over again - hehe.

OCTOBER 11 TRIP: This trip was not unlike that taken in August. The same 15 hour drive, but with a difference -- being so late in the year, more of it's in the dark. I only make 3 stops out to Madison - each about 10 mins. long -- gas, food and a potty break at the same location.

I arrived much later this time - more like 10:00pm. V was in his bathrobe and I proceeded to get my "normal" shower. Then it was off to bed.

Friday dawned bright and blue, but on the way to the University I got sick -- not enough sleep. I must have picked up something. V had several meetings in the morning, so I walked around the campus and then crashed on the lawn outside the Engineering Department. Next thing V was standing over me.

We went shopping, caught some sleep (and some fun)in the afternoon and that evening we meet Dennis and Michelle and went to a Japanese restaurant -- Great Meal!! After the meal we went to a piano bar at the "Edgewater". It was nice place to just relax and overlook the lake. We changed locations later in the evening to a bar downtown. I cannot remember the name, but another cool place. It was after 10:00pm when we decided to split and make our way home to V's apartment.

I sure enjoy V's friends -- they make me feel like part of the group. I have to also say thank you to Michelle for taking over some of V's work in the lab that weekend so we could be together. THANKS MICHELLE!!!

On Saturday, after a trip to the farmers market on the square, and lunch we walked up towards the capital in the rain. That was the first time that I saw him in a different light -- his hair was wet and he looked so CUTE -- I wanted to hug him. Later we took a drive to an outlet mall (30 miles or more East of Madison)and then met up with Jay and Andy for dinner.

On Sunday, V surprised me with a bottle of "champagne" and a picnic overlooking one of the lakes around Madison. We then went for a movie with Jay and Andy and followed that up with Dinner. That evening V and I went for ice cream and later returned home -- candles burning and soft music playing -- sleep followed.

I left Madison on Monday morning - our next trip planned for Thanksgiving week -- this time a whole week -- WOW. I think V has to work some, so maybe I can play housekeeper and maybe cook -- not something I'm good at.

THANKGIVING: Boy, I’m not sure where to begin. I needed this visit more than I knew. If you read some of my diary you will note that I was not feeling very well and it was getting worse just before I was scheduled to leave for Madison. The doctor suggested I get out of town for awhile in case it was stress. He now believes it is. It was the longest trip I ever made. I believe if it was 10 miles more I could not do it. I almost collapsed. A hot shower and being with V gave me more energy.

The weekend was almost a blur. Saturday was first spent at V’s office, we then went shopping for Turkey and all the fixings. About 4:00pm it was off to see Harry Potter. I really enjoyed the movie. I had wanted to finish the book first, but was not feeling well enough the week before. After the movie it was off to a great restaurant for dinner. I got to meet Michelle’s boyfriend. I was tired, but the day was great.

Sunday we were up for breakfast and then had to get the turkey in the oven. V had invited his friends over for an early Thanksgiving dinner. It was fun cooking together. We prepared so much food and neither of us knew exactly what we were doing, but It seemed to turn out fine. Everyone brought food too. I was able to visit with several new people Gilbert, Mark, Takashi, and Jeremy. Jeremy sang and played his guitar. Everyone went home about 10 or so and then it was time to cleanup and hit the hay. It feels so good to lay in bed with someone you care for so much.

Now, lets see. On Monday I stayed at V’s house while he went to work. I cleaned up some, repacked my car (put some things that I had brought for the dinner) and went shopping for a few items at the grocery store. I was going to lay down and start reading Harry Potter about 3 that afternoon, but V surprised me and came home early. Of course being with him is better than being with Harry!

Tuesday V had a class to go to in the early afternoon so we ventured into town, got a bite to eat and then I waited in his office playing on the computer and checking email until about 2:00pm. Michelle came in and we walked across campus to the dairy for some ice creme. If I remember correctly V cooked dinner at home that evening and we just settled down “for a long winters nap”.

Wednesday we shopped around in the mall, went and read some books (gay) at the bookstore and then met up with Andy and Jay for dinner. After dinner it was off for ice cream before bed. I love that #1 order (pound cake and almond joy ice cream). The restaurant a great place to just sit back and relax. It reminds me of an older café of the 50’s – with lots of mechanical toys everywhere.

Thursday was Thanksgiving and we were to go out that evening with an older (but still young) gay couple Sam and Joe. Dinner was set for 5 or thereabouts so we crossed town and had some before dinner drinks at Sam’s house. I got to meet Sam’s two cats and had a little wine before we traveled to the Edgewater in downtown Madison. By the way, Joe and Sam are great looking guys. We had the traditional turkey dinner and went home stuffed again. It was a good evening. Getting back to V’s apartment was filled with anticipation – hehe.

Friday was the day we decided to travel to Chicago. We got a room at the in the downtown area. First we drove to V’s brothers house where we dropped off the car. V’s father drove us to the closest train station where we caught the L to the center of town. That evening I met two other friends – Eva and Gordon – a straight couple. We ventured out to dinner, had a good meal and then V and I walked around town looking at the Christmas lights. It was a rather warm November evening.

On Saturday we met up with Michelle, Dennis and Jeremy for a trip to dinner in Chinatown and a walk around the crowded stores in downtown Chicago. It had rained that morning, but the sun came out later in the day. Dennis and the group drove down from Madison for some shopping (150 miles or so) and the opportunity to have lunch and dinner out. That evening we visited “Boystown” – the gay section of Chicago and all went to have a drink at two of the gay bars. All too soon it got late and we had to begin our journey home. Dennis dropped us off to pick up V’s car – interestingly we exchanged cars with his brother since they had the need for a larger vehicle while remodelling their home – and proceeded back to Madison. It began to rain and we did not arrive home till around midnight. We were both hungry so we whipped up a little left over turkey and then fell fast asleep.

Sunday was a day to just relax before I had to return to Wyoming. It was off to breakfast – well more like lunch since we got up so late – for the best pancakes in the world. It had turned cold and windy so we walked up to V’s office on the campus to get the latest weather update off the net. No surprise, a big storm was moving into the mid-west and I was likely to hit it on Monday. I just hate to see the week come to an end. But I suppose V can finally get some sleep when I’m gone - - just kidding.

Monday was a day from hell. It started off OK with a weather update from the South Dakota Highway Patrol (with help from V’s sister who had the phone number). I drove to La Crosse with no problems, crossed the Mississippi River, and then on to St Charles, MN. V called me on the cell phone to inform me that it looked like the weather was about to change, and it was. About the time I reached Albert Lea it was snowing – harder and harder. Driving speeds were reduced from 70 to 25 and this lasted to nearly 5:00pm that evening when I only reached the halfway point on the 1000 mile drive – Mitchell, South Dakota. I could no longer see the road. Snowfall was over 15 inches and the winds were reaching speeds of 50 miles per hour. It was time to locate a hotel and just sit back and let it snow. V and I talked more that evening. It was good to get out of the weather.

Tuesday – a day that I was suppose to be at work – improved some, but the roads remained snowpacked until I reached Sheridan. I was tired, but glad I made the trip. Interestingly, my illness symptoms began to return as soon as I saw the Big Horn Mountains from Interstate 90 – about 50 miles east of town. I did sleep well that evening however, but had to use a tranquilizer. You may want to read the daily diary for an update since I returned (below).

NEW YEARS: It’s hard to believe – I spent the New Years with V in Wisconsin. I was not really planning to make this trip, because I just did not think I could get everything fit into the holiday period, but after coming out to my parents, it all became easier. The Christmas holidays started out in mid December, when my parents arrived from Georgia. I had them fly into Denver to save on air fare. I drove down to the airport and back the same day – nearly 1000 miles. It gave us some time to talk about my life, perhaps more honestly than I had ever done before. It was just several weeks before that I decided to tell them about being gay and my boyfriend V. I was so surprised how they accepted it. V was confident they would, but I was scared.

My parents spent a week at my home and then we drove to my brothers in northern Arizona for Christmas – another 1000 miles. The weather cooperated and I returned to Denver on the 29th of December – almost another 1000 miles. There I sent my parents home on a return flight to Georgia. At 7:00am on the 30th I departed the Denver metro area for another week in Wisconsin. This time I drove up I-76 and I-80 to Cedar Rapids, Iowa where I connected with US 151 to Madison. It was long drive, but I arrived safely around 11:00pm that evening. I was so excited as I climbed the stairs to V’s apartment. They is nothing better to see than the one you care for after 16 hours on the road.

On the 31st (New Years Eve), we went to the “Pink Party” at the Civic Center in downtown Madison. I have never been to a gathering before with so many gay people. V cooked dinner that evening before we went – I had wanted to spend some time with him before the rush of the party. At the party we spent most of the evening just looking at other people and talking to friends. Around midnight we hit the dance floor and celebrated the beginning of 2002. We did not stay too late, we headed home around 12:30am. We were both tired. Not sure exactly when we fell asleep, but it was a little later that night – just a lot of cuddling and hugging.

Later that week we spent time ice skating. It was the first time I was on skates since the age of 12-15. Of course I had a few falls, one of which ended me in the hospital several days later with what I figured was a broken rib. The doctor dismissed me after several hours of waiting in the emergency room with only a bruised rib. It still hurts a little, but it’s mending.

We also made a quick trip to Chicago one afternoon to meet up with V’s family for dinner. To my surprise they had set up an appointment with a Chinese Doctor to see if she could give me some advice on my depression and lack of sleeping. I was very touched that everyone cared so much. She was unable to prescribe any medicine due to my long distance from home and my inability to make regular visits. She was also concerned about the medication my family doctor prescribed. It’s not good to mix treatments. Nevertheless, she gave me some pointers (it was all in Chinese) to better my health. That evening we all went to a Korean restaurant for some great tasting food. Then it was back to Madison (150 miles) for some hot milk and bed. A SPECIAL THANKS TO V’S FAMILY!!

Earlier that week V and I, along with Andy and Jay, went to see “The Lord of the Rings”. Three hours long, but a great movie. I was never able to read the book – just seemed to complicated in my earlier days, but perhaps I will pick it up now. I cannot wait till next year to see the second movie In the series. – I hope with the same people.

The last evening was spent with Andy, Jay, Dennis and V. We had dinner as Andy’s and then V and I left for ice cream before heading back to his apartment. I just hate to see the week come to an end, but Sunday came early and it was off to Wyoming. I left about 9:00am and arrived home about 10:45pm. I talked to V along the way – it’s such a lonely trip without him by my side. Thanks V for cooking all those special treats at last full day – I did make him stay in bed to nearly noon.

What is in store next? We are always planning new trips. V will be flying to Denver on Valentines Day (February 14). That is a special time since it marks to the day when we first talked to each other on the net (See “The Beginnings”). We will be going to a few of our old favorite places, to a few new ones, skiing, visits to a few gay bars and perhaps a quick trip to Colorado Springs to watch the solders – hehe. I want to go skating again so some of our days may be filled up doing that. I still have some more planning to do. We will be taking the “Ski Train” from downtown Denver to Winter Park Resort on the 16th. I also plan to spend a few hours in front of a fireplace cuddling up on those cold February evenings - made arrangements for a fireplace in the place we are staying. I cannot wait.

V and I are also planning a spring trip to the east coast. We should be leaving about the 9th – 10th of May for most of that month. It will be a trip to my parents house in Georgia, then to the panhandle of Florida, Disney World, and perhaps Key West. This will be a road trip with us sleeping in my Durango and camping out.

Well, I suppose I should try to get this posted, so people know my whereabouts. Thanks for hanging in there. I do feel a lot better now and with a regular exercise program, encouraging words from V and family, I will make it back to better health. Till Later !!! (((((HUGS)))))

VALENTINES: It had just started to snow as I was waiting for V’s plane to arrive from Madison. It was Thursday, February 14. With the new travel regulations I was not able to see him off the plane, but had to wait in the main terminal at the Denver airport. I had bought a few roses and could not wait to hug him upon his arrival. It was nearly 4:30pm when he came up the stairs. My heart skipped a few beats as I spotted him across the crowd of people. Boy, this long distance thing can take a toll.

We left the airport almost immediately, stopped by the hotel room to change, and then off to the Flagstaff Restaurant near Boulder, Colorado. We ate there last April. The restaurant sits above the town on the Front Range. The view is normally fantastic, but this evening it was snowing hard as we made our way up the winding, twisting road. We got there about 20 minutes early and had to wait in the bar for our table. It was nearly 7:00pm. We were seated in a small room off the main restaurant surrounded on two sides with glass, the other wall looked into the wine cellar. I believe only about 5 other couples were seated in the same area. To my surprise, as we tried to decide what to order, the snow stopped and the skies cleared – you could see all the lights of Boulder several thousand feet below. I could not ask for anything better. The surrounding pines were covered in white as we sat cozy against the wall. As usual, the meal was great. We exchanged gifts and finished the evening by driving back to downtown Denver. We started a fire in the fireplace and then reclined for the rest of the night. It felt so good to hold V in my arms.

Friday dawned clear and sunny. In fact, it really started to warm up. Temperatures approached the 50 degree mark. We headed out to the nearby ice arena for some ice skating until 1:00pm, then it was back to China Town where we got my favorite Vietnamese dish at the local Restaurant.

Saturday was a busy day. We were up at 6:00am to catch the 7:15am Ski train to Winter Park. It took two hours of riding through the mountains before we emerged at the Resort. Then it was off to get rental skis and then to the slopes. V had forgot his sunglasses and the clouds had cleared making it difficult to see with the reflection off the snow. I had also forgot about what it is like to come from sea level to an altitude of 12,000 feet. Well – V was tired. We made a few runs and actually made it to the top of the mountain. A quick lunch and it was soon time to start down so we could catch the train back to Denver. I won’t mention the steep run we had to make to save walking back to the rental shop. V did fine. That evening even I was exhausted as we headed for McCormicks near Larimar Square. I had reservations for 7:00pm. After that it was home to the motel and bed.

The remainder of the weekend was spent on a trip to Royal Gorge near Colorado Springs, some more skating and attending a play at the Denver Center of Performing Arts. We also managed to get some ice cream near the Cherry Creek Mall – a favorite spot. I dropped V off at the airport around 9:00am on Tuesday and we parted near the security section. I climbed to the second level and waved goodbye as he descended to meet the airport tram. I started home shortly thereafter with a tear in my eye – I had about 500 miles to drive.

The most important part about this whole trip was my further understanding of V. I won’t go into the details, but after returning, I realized how lucky I am. V never gives up on me – even when I feel down he cheers me up. THANKS FOR BEING THERE, FOR BEING MY FRIEND, PARTNER, AND LOVER.

MID MARCH/APRIL: For simplicities sake I decided to combine both these trips into one short dialog. Both were similar -- I left on a Friday morning around 5:00am and made the trip in just over 16 hours, arriving in Madison about 9:00pm. As usual, its always good to pull off the Interstate and make the short mile or two drive to V’s apartment. Yes, I’m tired of sitting all day, but it’s the ability to finally see him after a month, to embrace, and get that feeling of “welcome home”. As the spring approaches the drive becomes easier with more daylight and better road conditions. I always stop along the way at 3 places to fill up gas, take a short break, and get a bite to eat (at least pick something up to eat in the car). The traveler along Interstate 90 may recognize these locations: Beulah, Wyoming (on the border of South Dakota), Mitchell, South Dakota and St. Charles, Minnesota. You would think after all these months that the gas station attendants would recognize me, but I suppose I’m just another face passing through in a days work – Sigh….

The most important part of the trip is when I come to Lacrosse, Wisconsin. It’s here that I descend to the Mississippi River. The vegetation changes from scattered trees to a continues hardwood forest. I leave the dryer less humid air to the west. That old familiar smell – the fresh air, like you get after a summer rain, returns and reminds me of my boyhood. All those memories come back – the memories of living on the east coast. I welcome crossing the river as it marks a new journey in my life – finding someone that I truly love. Well, it’s just a “short 2 ˝ hour drive from here to Madison. The traffic increases and my heart pounds as I get closer.

On both trips V and I continued to take up ice skating. Of course, the winter was not cold enough to keep a consistent ice cover on the natural lakes, so we reverted to the rink at the university. We only get an hour to two to skate, but its fun. V goes several times a week so he is becoming an expert – leaving me in the dark – hehe. In March and April we journeyed to Chicago for the day. On that first occasion we parked at Navy Pier and took the bus to the downtown area. It was off to Boys Town for dinner then to the bars. I believe we left about 1:00 or 1:30am. With the drive back to Madison, it was nearly 4 before we got to bed. I do love Chicago with all its lights and excitement.

The nights in Madison are always the most relaxing, after dinner and perhaps a move, or some time out with his friends, we settle into bed. It feels so secure just laying beside him. All my cares seem to float away. It’s even better when I awake in the early morning and see him breathing, his eyes shut – off in dream land. I turn over, close my eyes and again fall asleep.

V and I are planning our next trip. This one will be much longer. I will drive from my home in Wyoming, to Madison to pick him up, then on to Chicago, Knoxville, the Great Smokey Mountains National Park (Tennessee), Georgia (my parents home), Tallahassee (Florida), Orlando (his sisters), then return via New Orleans and St. Louis. We will be gone about 20 days and drive about 6000 miles. It will be a combination of motels, camping (in my car) and staying at relatives. I'm excited. This will be the first time my parents get to meet V.

MEMORIAL DAY - 2002: Well we did make that trip to the Smokies and Flordia. It was a lot of fun. To save a few dollars and jut to do something different we camped in the car. The Smokies were not crowded at that time of the year. The evenings were cool, but the days were warm. We only spent one night in the National Park Campground, but it was a lovely site - close to a roaring stream (Little River). The next day we journey up the mountain on Highway 441. A few stops for a few hikes and we decended to the valley below on the way to my parents home.

I had planned a quick stop over on the way to Florida to see my dad and mother. I can say they truely enjoyed having Vy around. As usual he took over the kitchen thus allowing my mother to sit back and relax. As we departed they both gave Vy a hug. My dad invited him back if he was ever in the neighborhood. From there we headed south to meet up with some of Vy's friends. Again, we opted to camp out at St. George Island State Park. It was fun to swim in the ocean but the mosquitoes at night were something else - hehe.

I'm not going into much detail about the remaining part of our trip, simply because it would take up an extremely large amount of space to say everything good about it. From the Tallahassee area we drove south to Orlando - actually Palm Bay -- to meet Vy's sister. After several days there (with walks along the ocean and shopping for new homes, we continued on to New Orleans. We stayed in a bed and breakfast just a few blocks off the main part of the French Quarter. From New Orleans we traveled north to St Louis where we met another net friend, Gregg. With Gregg, we paid a visit to the Arch before going on to Madison and eventually returning to Sheridan, Wyoming.

THE BIG MOVE, 2003: It was on the Friday after Thanksgiving in 2003 that I received word of an opportunity to move closer to Vy. I had applied and been accepted for a new position at our Regional Office in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. Not only would I no longer have to make the 1000 mile trip from Sheridan, but my new job offered new responsibilities and a higher salary.

Moving to Milwaukee was not easy. I had to sell my existing home in Sheridan and find a new one in Wisconsin. All those parts fell into place and on February 8, 2003 I took up residency in Racine, 23 miles south of Milwaukee.

Milwaukee is a big town for a person who lived most of his working life out West. It's not New York or Atlanta, but it has all the amenities of a larger community. For the next two years Vy and I were able to visit each weekend. Either I traveled to his place in Madison (100 miles to the west) or he came to be with me. My new home was the base for numerous trips exploring this part of the country.

CANADA, 2003: During the Thanksgiving weekend (2003), Vy and I decided to visit Montreal and Quebec Canada. We spent 5 days in Montreal and 2 in Quebec. We flew from Milwaukee to Chicago and then to Canada. I cannot say enough good things about both lodging establishments. The bed and breakfast in Montreal contained nearly 20 different rooms, but still felt like you were staying in someones home. The breakfast was excellent with different types of bread, french toast, eggs, fresh orange juice, bacon, and hot tea or coffee. The B&B was just off the main street of town, but located in a quiet neighborhood. It was less than one block from the subway making travel around Montreal easy.

Quebec was exciting with all the old buildings and gift shops. We arrived via the Canada Railroad. I would highly recommend that you spend more than 2 days in this part of Canada. The evening walks along the water front were fantastic -- the city was alive - many buildings were awash in lighting. We stayed in a family run B&B that was gay friendly. The hosts were terrific and the room was large with furnishing matching the period of the dwelling - over 200 years old.

DOOR COUNTY 2003/2004: After I moved to Wisconsin Vy and I made several trips to Door County. Door County is the peninsula that juts out the eastern edge of the State of Michigan into Lake Michigan. It's a beautiful, restful spot that we fell in love with. We usually camped in a Peninsula State Park near town of Fish Creek. Every trip was made in late September when the crowds of tourists were at their lowest. This is a popular spot to vacation from Chicago and Milwaukee. The days consisted of walking the shoreline or in one of the many small towns. The evenings were spent around the campfire.

WYALUSING STATE PARK: Another weekend adventure was in the western part of the State of Wisconsin - Wyalusing State Park. This small park is on the bluffs overlooking the Mississippi River. Again, we camped in the park and explored the trails and overlooks during the day. It was great just to get away from the city and to be with Vy.

VIRGINIA: This was my first trip to see Vy in Virginia. I decided to make it a long weekend by taking off Monday and Tuesday. I purchased airline tickets for approximately $200 (on sale) providing me transportation from Milwaukee to Roanoke where Vy met me at the airport. My plane departed on Saturday morning at 6:00 a.m. It was nice to arrive by noon, but my next trip will be a little later. Getting up at 3 to be at the airport by 4 is crazy - hehe. I will say flying beats driving over 15 hours, however.

CANADA/NIAGARA FALLS, 2005: We began this Thanksgiving week trip in Chicago. We spent the night with Vy's brother and family before departing early Saturday morning to Buffalo, New York. Our intent was to just find a place to relax, enjoy a few sights and spend a little time together. We stayed at Britaly Bed & Breakfast, the home of two great hosts known as Aldo and Graham [ http://www.niagaracentralreservations.com/WCM_2331364/default.asp?AFL_ID=bbcom ]. They have a dog named Rufus. Their home is located north of Niagara Falls on the Canadian side of the Niagara River in the town of Niagara-On-The-Lake. It looks like a typical suburban home on the outside, but the place is very cozy on the inside. Each room is decorated with a theme. We stayed in the English room that overlooked the backyard. All rooms (total of three) are on the 2nd floor. Each morning our hosts provided what you might call a 4 course breakfast, starting with juice, granola and peach muffins, then progressed to a variation on quiche before ending with mixed fresh fruit and yogurt. Coffee and tea were also served at breakfast and was also available earlier in the morning outside our rooms. We chatted with Aldo and and Graham every time we had the opportunity. We felt right at home.

The first evening (Saturday) was spent getting checked in and then returning to Buffalo to meet some other friends from the local area - Doug and Hank. We ended up eating at a small bar/restaurant in the downtown area. We ate rather late since the place was crowded. After dinner we visited a few of the local night spots (bars) and then returned back to the B&B around 1:00AM. We enjoyed our visit.

On Sunday we decided to stay in the local area and visit the town of Niagara-On-The-Lake. It's a small quaint town containing many gift shops, art galleries, and restaurants. It's much classier than the nearby town of Niagara Falls. The area surrounding the town is full of vineyards. We wanted to see what Ice Wine was like so it was off to a few of the wineries for tasting. Ice Wine is very sweet and considered a desert wine. Vy ended up buying a bottle for his family later in the week. It is very expensive for the amount you get.

On Monday we ventured south to Niagara Falls. It's been a long time since I was here and the place has really changed. It is very touristy. It has every place under the sun to take the last few dollars in your wallet. We ended up eating lunch at a Chinese restaurant and then walked along the Niagara River viewing the falls. Later that afternoon we decided to go across to the American side of the river and walk around the adjacent State Park. The weather was cloudy and threatening rain, but the temperatures were not too cold. We walked the entire length of the Park from the American Falls and Visitor Center to Horseshoe Falls and Three Sisters Island. We also made a side visit to Cave of the Winds. Here you take an elevator to the river level and then walk a boardwalk to the base of the American Falls. Management was in the process of disassembling the walkway for the winter so we were not able to go too far. The price was only $3.00 per person. After returning to the surface, we drove back to Buffalo New York to meet a friend - Dennis, who we knew from Madison, Wisconsin. We ate at an Indian Restaurant that evening.

On Tuesday and Wednesday we decided to stay around Niagara-On-The-Lake and just relax. We got up late in the morning, had a good breakfast and then went into town looking for another restaurant to sample. If you are looking for some "hearty fare", Olde Angel Inn Pub & Restaurant is worth the visit. This bar is the oldest operating one of its kind in North America. They have some interesting English food on the menu. That evening we traveled into the nearby town of St. Catherine's (to the west) and ate at the White Oaks Resort and Restaurant. For lunch Wednesday we ate at the Piller Winery [ http://www.peller.com/peller/visit_winery/restaurant.htm ] -- excellent atmosphere and food. Thursday evening we selected the Strewn Winery for another excellent meal. [ http://www.strewnwinery.com/english/home/default.asp ].

On Thursday we awoke to some blowing snow. After a late breakfast we drove into town, did some wine shopping and then ended up at the Riverbend Inn and Vineyard [ http://www.riverbendinn.ca/ ]. It was a very fitting end to a wonderful trip. We had a plane to catch from Buffalo to Chicago that Thursday evening. We arrived back in Chicago at Vy's bothers house for Thanksgiving meal. If only vacations could last longer. I especially needed this one


AUSTRALIA: OK - Another rather long trip. This time to Australia. Vy had to go to Melbourne as part of his job, so it only seemed natural to tie in and visit this continent on the other side of the world. I had been rather sick prior to this trip and I was a little concerned, to say the least, that flying such a long flight (1 hour to Chicago, 4 hours to the West coast, and 14 hours to Australia) would be just too much. I had no problems. I planned a short stay in Sydney and then on to Melbourne. Again, just a short stay in Melbourne and then on to Tasmania for the majority of our vacation. See the slides for more on our trip.

HAWAII: This was an opportunity for Vy's parents and sisters to visit Hawaii. We only planned a week. We first flew to Honolulu and then on to the big island of Hawaii. We later returned to Oahu for the remainder of the week. See our photos for more on the trip.

PARIS: A trip that we always wanted to take. Our destination was Paris, France over the Thanksgiving week. Paris is romantic and perhaps the most interesting place I have ever been. History is everywhere and their is so much to see. See our photos for more on the trip.

MEXICO: Our trips seem to center around holiday periods. That is the best time for both both Vy and I to get off work without exceeding our vacation days. If we plan things right it can also offer us cost savings by visiting places we always wanted to see in the "low season". This trip to Mexico was not planned way in advance but just a few weeks before our departure. We had a great time and thanks to the internet was able to make the reservations at the last minute. Here is a summary of our stay in Tulum, Mexico. It was written to a friend who is planning a similar trip.

Jo - Finally getting some time to drop you a few lines. I will try to answer your questions from my point of view and experiences in Tulum. We were there a little over a year and 1/2 ago - It was during the July 4th weekend so it was very hot and humid. I suspect you will have cooler temperatures and lower humidity.

GENERAL: I really liked Tulum because it represented more of the Mexican culture than Cancun. We drove through the resorts at Cancun (on the beach) and it seemed more like Miami Florida. I suppose you could isolate yourself there and not really get the feel of Mexico. That being said, Tulum does have some negatives, if you expect standards that you find in the US, they for the most part are not there. The streets are somewhat dirty and litter was everywhere. I have found this common in most places outside the US except for Europe. Nonetheless, the people were very friendly and most of the places we ate at or visited spoke some English. The area along the beach is beautiful. If you have not already checked out TripAdvisor, I would do so: ( http://www.tripadvisor.com/Tourism-g150813-Tulum_Yucatan_Peninsula-Vacations.html ). We use it to get a feeling about the area. The forums are great. You can scan them for recent answers to many of your questions. You can get reviews of the hotel and restaurants. We could not travel without it.

GETTING THERE: You most likely have maps of the area, but I've included one (Map Enclosed) showing all the hotel and main points of town. I wanted to see where you were located in relation to where we stayed - that way I could get some kind of an idea of your ability to walk or perhaps ride a bike. We rented a car in Cancun (airport) and kept it for one week. It was rather expensive since I decided to take out the insurance (full coverage). I believe we paid over $300. The car portion was cheap, but I did not want to get into an accident and have to worry about Mexican law. We did look into using a bus, but since we wanted to go inland to visit Chichen Itza (archeological site), and do it on our own (no tour or bus), the decision was easy for us. Having a car gave us options on our schedule. It will most likely be cheaper in the long run than booking some tours for your family to get you to the more remote sites that are worth visiting (see below).

The bus comes into the southern part of Tulum (between Alfa and Jupiter - on the main street). From one part of town to the other is not very long (less than 1/4 mile), but if you have bags it would be more difficult to walk. We always use backpacks so we can travel with ease - never check baggage with the airlines. The main taxi station is more towards the northern part of town (just north of Orion Street). You should be able to call a taxi from the bus station - in fact taxies will be lined up there I bet. Another alternative might be to try and get off the bus just as you enter town at the main shopping center (not sure they will allow this, but we have found it common in many countries). Just as you enter town their is a store (Super Francisco) on your right. It's the best place to buy any food to stock up and keep at your place. We decided to buy an ice chest and kept ice at our cabana since we did not have electric. However, the ice chest was very expensive ($15) for something we would pay $7 for at Wal Mart. You may want to consider bringing a folding cooler instead of buying something there. We of course left our at the Cabana when we flew back to the States. Getting ice was easy, but had to come back to Super Francisco every other day or whenever we passed it while taking other side trips. Ice was a few bucks a bag.

It looks like your place "Papaya Playa" is at the northern end of the beach road. The beach road begins just opposite Super Francisco. If I remember correctly, a paved bike trail exists all along this portion of the road (till you get to the beach itself). It's about 3 km to the beach. Driving the car seemed a little longer than this to me. This bike trail is in the open with no trees so it was very hot during the summer. We did see people riding bikes and even walking, but in limited numbers. Once you get near the beach the road turns south and is very narrow. Traffic was light and I would have no fear about using a bike or walking - you just need to watch out for cars. Our Cabana (Hamaca Loca) (Picture enclosed) was great and it was located near the end of the beach road - almost on the beach. We of course had more distance to travel making the car more worth the cost. I suspect you could have a taxi pick you up and deliver you back and forth to town whenever you wanted to go in However, we found that many of the places along the beach road had their own restaurants. We were able to walk up and down the beach to these places without even going out to the beach road.

FOOD: We ate in town (Tulum) several times during our weeks stay - just for a change of pace. It was also nice to go into town in the evening when the pace of life slowed up - even for the Mexicans. If I remember correctly tips are usually included with the meals as a service charge, but you may want to check - usually about 10%. Several places stood out for us in town:

Don Cafeto's (Great place for grilled meat, seafood and superlimonada (lemon aid) and coconut ice cream stuffed in a coconut shell ). The prices were not too bad - similar to the US in a chain restaurant - maybe a little cheaper. (Pictured enclosed) Pollos Asados Al Carbion (Chicken stand - It's on the right hand side of the street as you are head south - very cheap ($5.00 for whole chicken with beans, rice and tortillas) and the chicken tasted great - we still remember it - they have little tables inside. You can even pick it up to go) (Picture enclosed).

On the beach we liked the following (Places on the beach cost more - more typical of a good restaurant in downtown Milwaukee):

Las Ranitas (Mexican food - prices a little higher than in town, but great place with cool breezes from the water - located at 9 km on beach road). Posada Margherita (Great Italian place - loved the fresh pasta and seafood - It's located at 5 1/2 km on beach road).

SECURITY: We had no problems or worries about security, but you don't want to leave anything sitting around. Don't take your eyes off of anything of value. Like most other countries, even in the US, you do have people looking to run off with your things if left unattended. Be careful if riding on a bus - keep in contact with your belongings or make sure they are not accessible to others (locked in the bottom of the bus). Although we did not ride the bus in Mexico - in other countries in Latin America this is a word of caution. Since we had a car, we were very careful about getting gas (also never leave anything of value in the car for even a minute). They will at times not reset the gas pumps when you pull-in for gas. It's the law in Mexico that the driver cannot fill the pumps themselves. You must watch very closely. You can get stuck for an extra $5.00 - $10.00 - It happened to us one time - we caught them and refused to pay - they adjusted it down a few bucks. You are also expected to tip the gas station attendant for filling your pump (of course something we did not do at the station that tried to rip us off).

MONEY: We never get money at home, but plan to exchange some (a small amount - $100 at the airport). We then make a stop at the nearest bank and cash some more after we get to our destination. You can do this easily in Tulum (be careful about the day you arrive - I believe the bank is only open on M-F). Go to HSBC Bank - across the street from the bus station. They are very use to people exchanging money. It's fairly fast and easy, but you can expect some long lines at certain times. The bank is just a whole in the wall building (very small). Other places around town exchanged money, but your exchange rate is never as good as at a bank. I took cash. You could use a credit card. The bank has a separate section with ATM machines. We did use credit cards for the bigger restaurants and some tours we took on the side. Keep in mind that you may need more money if you are going to pay for bus tickets before you get to Tulum.

THINGS TO SEE: We generally don't go for major tours, but spend the time on the beach and just walking around the town and resorts. Here we did take a tour and then managed to see a few archeological sites using the car. I would recommend the following:

Tulum Ruins (Mayan - Great place to explore - These ruins are next to the sea and perched on a cliff. Although we did not swim there, it looked like a great beach below the ruins (Pictures enclosed). They charge a minimal entrance fee ($4-5 dollars per person). It's located about 4 km north of where you will be staying. Go early to avoid the tour groups that arrive on buses from Cancun (between 8-10 am).

Coba Ruins (Mayan) - This is the only place you can climb a pyramid (at least when we were there). It's about 26 miles west of Tulum. Again a minimal fee is charged. You can spend several hours just walking around the trails in the jungle and visiting the old parts of the city. You can also rent bikes here to explore the trails. (Picture enclosed)

Tour of Canal in Sian Ka'an - We used the tour company at this site ( http://www.cesiak.org/alldayde.htm ) for an all day trip along the canals and jungle. They had lunch and also a trip to a cenote. It was about $80/person, but I feel was worth the money. You can buy tickets in Tulum also. We had a good English speaking guide who knew the history of the area and floating the canal was just great on a hot day - one of the best parts of the whole trip. (Picture enclosed)

Chichen Itza - This is the finest of the Mayan archaeological sites. It is now a world class site and worth the visit. I realize this would require you to book a tour or rent your own car for a day or two west of Tulum. It may be possible to take a bus from Tulum also for a day trip. It's about 50-75 miles west (interior of Yucatan). You are so close that it's worth considering. (Picture enclosed).

That is about all from here. Have any specific questions, Yell ! I will be happy to answer.

Joel


ITALY: As usual we took another trip over the November Thanksgiving holiday. This time it was to Italy for 2 weeks. As with the other trips we have yet to write much about it. Needless to say we got to see all the sights and had a wonderful time. Pictures have now been uploaded. Our schedule included two destinations, first Rome and the Venice. Rome is so rich in history. What a difference from Paris one year ago (see above). Paris was quiet and relaxed. Rome was fast paced and boisterous. Venice, on the other hand was more laid back, with only walking in the city or transportation on boats. Yes, we had rain during out trip, as can be expected this time of the year, but the reduced crowds make this time a great opportunity to travel. See our photos for more of the trip.






COSTA RICA: Another year has passed. We had planned to travel to Thailand, but with unrest in the country we cancelled the trip at the last minute. Unfortunately, we lost nearly $1,500, but circumstances proved us right when the airports in Thailand closed for nearly two weeks during our scheduled departure. This trip to Costa Rica was planned with only two weeks prep. We basically had to decide where to go for our nonrefundable airline tickets. In other words, after loosing about $250 on each ticket we had the remainder to spend on air transportation. Costa Rica was the choice










ALASKA: Wow, this trip was one of the best. Neither Vy nor I were every on a cruise ship. I felt it was just not me and Vy was concerned about getting sea sick. We both learned that neither of these concerns had any merit. We traveled with Royal Caribbean on the "Radiance of the Sea" and could not have been more pleased. The service was excellent. The weather was great - Temperatures in the 80's with clear skys. That is very unusual for Southeast Alaska. Take a look at the pictures.

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